I review "Good Vibes, Good Life" by Vex King
Hello everyone! Welcome back to another blog post. In this post I'll be talking about Vex King's book "Good Vibes, Good Life." If you haven't heard of this book before, I HIGHLY recommend it! It's an international bestseller and I absolutely LOVED it. The BEST thing about this book is the fact that, it's not a book you read once and then put back on the shelf. You can read it multiple times over your life - anytime you feel a bit down or maybe you need a little boost or motivation, this book is the one! I'll be talking about my personal interpretation of the book, what I took away from it and why you all NEED to read it!
This book is about self-love and how we can achieve it. Specifically, "How Self-Love Is The Key To Unlocking Your Greatness". I'll be looking at some of the quotes Vex has included in his book and discussing how they resonated with me. I don't want to regurgitate the book, so I'll be focussing on some of the parts that I connected with and how they made me think about life, in a way that I probably haven't before.
"I realise that the good, the bad and the downright ugly events are all a part of who I've become." I loved this quote. I think it is so true. Sometimes we go through things in life and at the time we think 'why is this happening?'. But everything we go through, shapes who we are. Even the bad stuff. If your life was just good all the time, it would be extremely difficult to go through something 'bad'. In this way, everything we go through teaches us a lesson. And we can use these lessons to deal with things that may happen in the future. This quote really resonated with me because I'm definitely the type of person who screams 'why me?!' when I go through something rubbish. And then when I'm over it, I can see WHY it happened.
"Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are, while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it." So true. You aren't going to wake up one day and suddenly realise you should love yourself. It really is a long journey. All the bad habits and thoughts we have about ourselves, aren't going to go away. Unless, we make an active effort to drive them away. Love yourself as you are, but make an active effort to better the things you don't love. This can be different for everyone. Maybe you enjoy gossiping, but deep down you feel like a bad person for it. This may stop you loving yourself fully. The solution to this would be to work on stopping the gossiping. I say this, but it isn't as easy to just stop. And gossiping is just one example. Again, I really resonated with this quote, as it forced me to think about the things I want to work on.
"Change the way you think, feel, speak and act, and you begin to change your world."
For me this quote, in a funny way, also ties in with the saying 'fake it till you make it'. For example, when you walk into work, you may always start the day by saying something negative to a colleague. Like, 'I'm so tired' or 'The weather is so crap' or 'I can't be bothered with work today'. BUT, maybe, even if you did have these thoughts, you could try saying something positive like 'I am really tired today, so I can't wait to go home and watch my favourite movie' or 'The weather is bad, but I'm so glad I'm warm and working inside'. These are just examples I've thought of myself, but I know they would really make a difference to my day. I'm the type of person who wakes up and instantly has negative thoughts, especially if I'm waking up in the morning. But, since reading Vex's book, I try to think positively when I wake up early - along the lines of 'I'm awake early, I'm going to be so productive today'. And usually I end up having a really productive day, and I feel good for it too. It's small changes that we can make, but when we start and keep going, eventually they will become normal. Try it.
"Sometimes you have to unplug yourself from the world for a moment, so you can reset yourself."
I think that we don't unplug enough. Our lives are constantly revolved around social media. Checking what other people are doing, sharing what we are doing, looking for things we can do..etc. It's a constant cycle of being on our phones, sharing our lives, chatting with friends. And most of the time, this is good and we enjoy it and there's essentially no harm to it. However, it can't hurt to just step away from it. Unplug your phone, and just take time for yourself. Even considering putting my phone away for 5 minutes seems impossible, but I would LOVE to actually try this. I think it would have a positive effect. When I go for my morning walk, I do listen to a podcast, but I'm not constantly on my phone and checking social media. Just being in the fresh air, by myself, really sets me up for the rest of the day and I feel good. Still need to work on the attachment issues with my phone though...
"The more you count your blessings, the more blessings you'll have to count."
Recently, before reading Vex's book, I listened to his interview with Fearne Cotton on her 'Happy Place' podcast. He mentioned something that really fascinated me. He was basically saying when we say we are grateful, it doesn't necessarily mean we FEEL grateful, we may just be saying it. He said that he started to count the things he was grateful for in the morning and at night. I found this incredible. Often, we are focussed on the things we don't have and how we can get them. This could be a better job, a new car, a new house...etc. But if we count the things we do have, every morning and night, we can learn to actually FEEL grateful and actually BE grateful. This is another suggestion by Vex that I really want to try.
"It's much easier to see the good in life when you're around positive people."
This is one of my favourites. This relates to the quote/saying 'you are the company you keep'. This one is something I've thought about long before I read Vex's book, but when I re-read it, it kind of re-confirmed it for me. When I'm with people who feel good, they also make me feel good. But if I'm around people who think negatively, I automatically begin to feel the same. The company I keep, really does affect my thoughts, but it took me a long time to realise this.
"Sometimes you have to break away from the toxicity so you can heal."
Again, I love this quote (if you haven't already noticed, I love all his quotes). I think sometimes we don't recognise toxic relationships/situations, until we break away from them. Often, we're so caught up by someone or something, that we don't realise the harm it's doing to us. But, when we break away, we realise 'actually, I'm happier without that person/thing'. It's hard to recognise toxicity, in my personal opinion. And even when we do, we may find it difficult to break off that relationship/situation. But then again, self-love is a journey, that we must choose to make.
"You'll know it's your gut when you have a sense of almost knowing you've arrived at the answer without a reasoning process."
I've read enough stories and been in enough situations to say ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT. ALWAYS. That's all I have to say.
"It's okay to move on from people who aren't giving you back the same energy."
This quote, I suppose it depends on the type of person you are. Sometimes relationships/friendships change and so the energy can change too. But if the change is the same from both people, then you can still move forward. I suppose the easiest example I can go to here, is a friendship. When you put in all the effort and get nothing back, you should move on from it. BUT, if both people are making the same amount of effort but a DIFFERENT amount of effort than before, then you can still continue that friendship. I hope that makes sense!
"The truth is that, either way, you're going to be judged, whether you live life on your own terms or on other people's."
LOVE THIS QUOTE. I think oftentimes, ESPECIALLY (relating to me) in the asian community, there is a tendency to worry about your actions from fear of what others may think or if they're gonna judge you. BUT THEY ARE GOING TO JUDGE YOU NO MATTER WHAT. It's hard to accept but it's so true. If you do what they expect you to do, they are STILL going to talk. If you don't go along with the norm, then guess what? They are still going to talk. This is easier said than done, but DO what makes YOU happy. DO YOU.
"Your goal isn't to get rid of negative thoughts; it's to change your response to them."
Sometimes negative thoughts are inevitable. In Vex's book, he goes through the steps in how we change our response to them, so I'll leave that to him. But, if we have a negative thought, it's fully in our control how we respond to it.
"Step out of your comfort zone and face your fears. Growth takes place when you're challenged, not when you're comfortable."
Again, I absolutely relate to this quote. This is something Vex mentioned himself. He talks about a job that he previously had and how he left it to pursue a career on social media, promoting self-love and positivity. You really have to be brave and want to take that first step. In order for change to happen, you have to change. If you continue doing what you do everyday, and not change anything, nothing is going to change. Push yourself to achieve what you want, and don't stop until you get there!
"There's purpose behind your pain."
I think this is nice to round this post off. I think (and I think Vex mentions this too) that everything happens for a reason. We don't always see the reason, or understand the reason at the time but maybe 20 years from now, we will. I don't know. But I know when something I consider 'annoying' or 'hurtful' or something happens that I don't understand, after some time, I do understand. I know WHY it happened and I'm always kind of grateful that it did.
I think I should stop there before I rewrite the whole book, and comment on every sentence. These are just some of the quotes that resonated with me, but the book is so much more than this post. Honestly, it really does change your whole outlook on life. And if you take it in and act on the things that Vex "prescribes", I believe it really can be life-changing. It's about putting yourself first and making those changes, bit by bit, in order to achieve self-love.
Again, I highly recommend reading the book. It's hard to put down and you will finish it within a couple of days. The kindle version is currently on sale, so get it while you can! If you do read it, please let me know what you think, what parts of the book resonated with you and what you want to start practising, in order to achieve self-love. Also, I just want to highlight, apart from the quotes taken from the book, all other thoughts are my own or inspired by the book. I don't claim to be an expert on self-love, my comments are just my own interpretation of the book and what I took from it.
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